Communication Skills Self-Assessment Exercise
241.
A. When conversing with others, I usually do most of the talking.
B. When conversing with others, I usually let the other person do most
of the talking.
C. When conversing with others, I try to equalize my participation in the
conversation.
Best answer: c. Conversations should be a balanced two-way flow of dialogue.
242.
A. I frequently use courtesy words and phrases - "Please," "Thank you,"
"You're welcome," "I'm sorry."
B. I occasionally use these courtesy words and phrases.
C. I never use these courtesy words and phrases.
Best answer: a. Regular use of these courtesy words and phrases is important
to show politeness and build rapport
243.
A. While conversing, I hold my head still at all times.
B. While conversing, I nod my head at appropriate times.
C. While conversing, I nod my head constantly.
Best answer: b. Occasionally nodding your head to indicate you agree or
understand helps build rapport. Again, it shows you are interested and engaged
in the conversation.
244.
A. When I receive unfavorable feedback, I note where I need to improve.
B. When I receive unfavorable feedback, I get angry and defensive.
C. When I receive unfavorable feedback, I deny the problem, make
excuses, or plead ignorance.
Best answer: a. When you receive feedback, it's important to know what you
do well, but it's equally important to know where improvements can be made
to increase your chances for success. Few people do everything well, and
you've undoubtedly heard the saying - "No one is perfect." Simply make note
of "weak" areas (we all have them!) and make changes needed. Receiving
honest feedback is truly "a gift." It usually means someone cares and wishes
to see you succeed.
245.
A. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I just say it.
B. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I lead in with a positive
comment first.
C. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I say nothing.
Best answer: b. It's best to say something positive first, then express a negative
opinion or comment in a tactful way.
246.
A. While conversing, I stand one-foot away from the person.
B. While conversing, I stand two- to three-feet away from the person.
C. While conversing, I stand five- to six-feet away from the person.
Best answer: b. Your arm's length is the appropriate distance (between
two- to three-feet). Standing closer than arm-length makes the other person
feel uncomfortable (or feel threatened). Standing a further distance away
breaks down rapport.
247.
A. While listening, I tend to be distracted by things going on around me.
B. While listening, I listen for meaning and ask questions.
C. While listening, I watch the person speak, but I don't "hear" a word.
Best answer: b. If you're a good listener, you keep mentally busy searching for
for meaning in the message, and you ask questions. This mental "search for
meaning" helps keep you focused, attentive, and engaged. If you get easily
distracted, try taking notes if the setting is appropriate. Note-taking helps draw
and focus your attention as you must mentally "search for meaning" and listen for
information in order to take notes. This might be helpful in meetings, for example.
If you watch someone speak but you don't "hear" a word, gauge if you are bored,
tired, might have a gap between your speaking and listening rates, or are
experiencing "emotional deafness." We all experience emotional deafness
on occasion, especially when we're feeling overwhelmed, upset, or nervous. You
hear people ask - "I'm sorry, what did you say?" or make the comment - "I have
a lot on my mind right now. Could you repeat what you said?" If it's a frequent
problem, gauge the source and seek help if needed.
248.
A . When I disagree with a person, I listen first, ask questions for clarification,
then disagree non-judgmentally.
B. When I disagree with a person, I quickly point out the person is wrong
and why.
C. When I disagree with a person, I say little or nothing.
Best answer: a. It's fine to disagree, but it's important to disagree agreeably.
This means you should:
1) show respect for the other person's ideas,
2) listen attentively until the person is done,
3) ask questions if needed,
4) disagree non-judgmentally, and, if possible,
5) offer an alternative solution.
249.
A. When I cross my leg, I cross my leg facing the speaker.
B. When I cross my leg, I cross my leg away from the speaker.
C. When I cross my leg, I bob my foot.
Best answer: a. Crossing your leg toward the speaker shows you're interested,
and it builds rapport. Crossing your leg away from the speaker gives the message
that you are defensive, disinterested, or feel in charge. In essence, you are putting
up a subtle barrier. And if you bob or swing your foot, you're sending the message
that you're anxious or nervous!
250.
A. I tend to be serious and don't smile often while conversing.
B. I smile all the time while conversing.
C. I smile at appropriate times while conversing.
Best answer: c. Smiling when greeting people and at appropriate times greatly
helps build rapport.
251.
A. When I give a person negative feedback, I do it around others so
everyone can hear.
B. When I give a person negative feedback, I do it in front of the
supervisor.
C. When I give a person negative feedback, I talk with the person alone
in a private place.
Best answer: c. It's always best to meet the person privately and away from
other people so others can't hear.
252.
A. When I'm listening to the speaker, I often cross my arms over my chest.
B. When I'm listening to the speaker, I often lean back and turn my body
away from the speaker.
C. When I'm listening to the speaker, I often lean slightly forward and face
my body toward the speaker.
Best answer: c. Leaning slightly forward and facing the speaker shows you're
interested, and it helps build rapport. Sitting with your arms crossed over your
chest gives the message you are defensive. Leaning back with your body or
turning your body away from the speaker gives the message that you are bored,
disinterested, or feel in charge. Such body language breaks down rapport
253.
A. I often stand while talking to a person who is sitting.
B. I often sit while talking to a person who is sitting.
C. I often lean down while talking to a person who is sitting.
Best answer: b. Communicating at eye level helps build rapport. So, if the
person is sitting and a chair is available, take a seat! There's one exception -
If you walk into your supervisor's office or co-worker's office, it's best to ask
the supervisor or co-worker if you can sit down first. Even better, wait for an
invitation to sit. The person may not have time to talk at that moment.
254.
A. When someone talks about an unfortunate or sad experience, I don't
comment about it.
B. When someone talks about an unfortunate or sad experience, I try to
change the subject.
C. When someone talks about an unfortunate or sad experience, I try to
relate to the person's feelings and show sensitivity to his or her
misfortune.
Best answer: c. Showing empathy (sensitivity) to another person's feelings helps
build rapport. It's called "reaching out to people." Empathy can be shown by making
comments, such as:
"That must have been a scary (or upsetting) experience for you."
"I felt the same way when that happened to me."
"I know (understand) how you feel."
"I can imagine how you feel."
"I would feel that way too in your situation."
255.
A. When I first meet someone, I wait for the other person to make the
introduction first.
B. When I first meet someone, I introduce myself with a smile and offer a
handshake.
C. When I first meet someone, I hug the person.
Best answer: B. It's good to initiate the introduction and introduce yourself
with a handshake and smile. If shaking hands is difficult, a quick head nod is
a good substitute. Initiating the introduction with a smile and handshake (or
head nod) helps build rapport.
256.
A. If a co-worker has put on weight, I say nothing about it.
B. If a co-worker has put on weight, I tell the person that he or she has
changed in appearance.
C. If a co-worker has put on weight, I honestly tell the person that he
or she looks fat.
Best answer: a. It's best to say nothing. Never say anything that might hurt or
offend the person. It's called being tactful. It's always best to give compliments
only, and only say things that will make the person feel good.
"I like your dress."
"That's a nice shirt."
257.
A. When I discuss a topic, I tend to talk about and focus on positive (good)
aspects.
B. When I discuss a topic, I tend to talk about and focus on the negative (bad)
aspects.
C. When I discuss a topic, I tend to complain.
Best answer: a. Focusing on the positive (good) aspects draws people's attention
in a favorable way, and people enjoy the conversation more. People are generally
more attracted to a person who has a "positive outlook on life." And when it comes
to work evaluations, positive-minded people generally do better
258.
A. I usually "warm-up" new conversations with small talk.
B. I usually avoid small talk and jump into more important matters.
C. I usually avoid starting conversations.
Best answer: a. It's good to initiate conversations with small talk. Topics to
warm-up the conversation might include a chat about the weather, news of
interest, or impressions about the current activity (if you're at a meeting,
staff party, or other gathering, for example).
259.
A. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I just say it.
B. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I lead in with a positive
comment first.
C. When I have a negative opinion or comment, I say nothing.
Best answer: b. It's best to say something positive first, then express a negative
opinion or comment in a tactful way.
260.
A. I make an effort to remember and use peoples' names.
B. I don't pay attention to names as I tend to forget them.
C. I only learn the names of important people.
Best answer: a. It's good to call people by name whenever possible. It makes
a good, lasting impression, and it makes the other person feel important and
special.
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